Neff’s second component of self-compassion is common humanity, defined as “recognizing that suffering and personal inadequacy is part of the shared human experience—something that we all go through rather than being something that happens to ‘me’ alone.”[3] As the writer Anne Lamott puts it: “Everyone is screwed up, broken, clingy, and scared, even the people who seem to have it more or less together. They are much more like you than you would believe.”
