Perfectionists find an emphasis on self-compassion to be superfluous, “Uh-huh, be nicer to myself; got it.” We’re ready for the real solution. Unconsciously operating under the false belief that we learn more through punishment and suffering than we do through compassion and joy, we don’t understand that self-compassion is the primary solution.
Again, feeling the FEELS with this. I'm thinking of a show I watched recently NAS4A2 where the protagonist, and her little child friend, are both sensitive, artistic kids in tough families, in a tough MASShole environment. And I felt visceral anger, sorrow, empathy, wanting to champion them etc. and that's what I feel for my past self. WHAT IF that child, that young woman, had had the nurturing, supportive, champions that she needed in her life. Damn. What a difference that might have made.
