When you understand that you are the person who oversees defining what’s meaningful to you, you connect to the power of embracing success on your own terms. As you continue to succeed on your own terms, you build a confidence that’s all your own, one that external accolades have no say in. For adaptive perfectionists, “winning” through traditional markers of success is nice (sometimes it’s really nice), but that’s all it is. External wins and losses don’t make or break you when you’re connected to your inherent self-worth. Along those same lines, it turns out “failure” isn’t that big of a deal
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