like the goal so many of us fall prey to, was not to process what happened but to learn how to control her feelings about what happened. Preconceived notions about what it means to be “officially healed” loiter around in our minds and hearts. These imaginings of what we think our healing is supposed to look like are always wrong. You have no idea what form your healing will take. One way to define healing is becoming open to possibility. When you focus on emotional control, you close yourself off to possibility. Power lies in understanding that whatever you feel, you have agency over every
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