Over the years it became abundantly clear how ubiquitous this situation is when it comes to sexual assault. You dressed alluringly? You were asking for it. You willingly kissed him? Asking for it. Make your money by taking off your clothes? Asking for it. Add in any whiff of sex work, and it’s all over. The answer again and again: The woman is always asking for it. This attitude is so ingrained and deeply offensive, but I didn’t know it at the time. I had so much to learn.
