“People gravitate toward their emotional mirror images,” Michael Kerr points out.[5] It is well recognized now that people will form relationships with others exactly at the same level of psychological development and self-acceptance as their own. “People tend to sort themselves by levels of emotional development for many purposes, not just marriage,” writes Stanley Greenspan, “because those functioning at different levels are practically speaking different languages. . . People widely separated developmentally in fact have very little to talk about.”[6] What we might call the law of equal
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