LaPerle knows this reality all too intimately. “I was a competitive athlete until I was sixteen. I was expected to perform in every area of my life, but as things were progressing, I was falling further and further behind,” she says. “There’s a point where you mourn the person you used to be. Like, I’ve lost a lot of people in my life to death, and the grieving is the same—except you’re grieving for yourself, the person you used to be or the person that you could be. People judge you.”

