The Dance of Connection: How to Talk to Someone When You're Mad, Hurt, Scared, Frustrated, Insulted, Betrayed, or Desperate

by Harriet Lerner

Children who are badly shamed, blamed, and criticized while growing up may have a difficult time apologizing as adults. Or, if the adults in our life didn’t apologize when we needed them to, we can find it hard to forge a new pattern for ourselves.