HORSEMAN 4: STONEWALLING Stonewalling occurs when one partner tunes out the other and disengages from the relationship. We turn away, sit there like an impassive stone wall, leave the room, or somehow communicate that we couldn’t care less what the other person says or does. We won’t let our partner’s words influence or affect us. Gottman states that people stonewall as a protection against feeling flooded, and that men stonewall more than women.
