Even if you speak with love and respect—recognizing the wrongdoer’s full humanity beyond the bad deeds—he may still never hear you. So don’t speak because you need an apology or validation. Rather, speak to focus on what you want to say about yourself, for yourself. Longing for a genuine apology or an affirming response is totally understandable, but unrealistic when you enter a conversation with someone who has betrayed you. The only reason to speak is because you need to speak.
