The Dance of Connection: How to Talk to Someone When You're Mad, Hurt, Scared, Frustrated, Insulted, Betrayed, or Desperate

by Harriet Lerner

she should make a 100 percent commitment to being the very best partner she can be. She should be the partner that she wants her spouse to be for her. She should also work on herself, including her relationships with her family of origin. If she’s still thinking about divorce after that, she probably should go ahead.”