Paradoxically, the more enduring a connection, the more vulnerable we are to getting stuck in conversations where our experience of our self and the other person becomes fixed and small. Disconnection can become a way of life for people sharing the same home, a common history, or the same bed. In couple relationships and family life we may need to make a special effort to engage in novel conversations that will create a larger view of who we are and what our relationships can become.
