The Dance of Connection: How to Talk to Someone When You're Mad, Hurt, Scared, Frustrated, Insulted, Betrayed, or Desperate

by Harriet Lerner

You need to pay attention to your relationship and nurture it, you need to move toward your partner in a loving and generous way, and you need to avoid distancing or disconnecting emotionally. You can do this—and also clarify your wants, expectations, limits, and bottom line.