I’ve seen any number of devastated men in therapy who tell me their wives left them out of the blue. The wives, however, claim to have voiced their anger and dissatisfaction for a long time. Both are right: he hasn’t listened well enough; she hasn’t shared her thoughts about divorce clearly enough or early enough in the process. Often the wife does not make a serious issue of divorce until she’s finally made up her mind to leave. Any changes the husband then agrees to make are too little, too late. In the end, neither spouse has had an opportunity to test the potential for change in their
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