The Dance of Connection: How to Talk to Someone When You're Mad, Hurt, Scared, Frustrated, Insulted, Betrayed, or Desperate

by Harriet Lerner

And if it’s hard to say, “This is what I need to do for myself,” it’s all the more difficult to say, “This is what I expect from you,” and then, if we’re ignored, to decide what to say next and how to say it.