The Dance of Connection: How to Talk to Someone When You're Mad, Hurt, Scared, Frustrated, Insulted, Betrayed, or Desperate

by Harriet Lerner

You need to muster a huge amount of maturity and discipline to say less when you feel compelled to say more, to not pursue when you feel desperate to do so, and to keep communication focused entirely on yourself. This is especially true when what you really want to do is convince the other person to think, feel, or behave differently.