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June 8 - June 8, 2022
Remember the wise saying Alcoholics Anonymous keeps repeating: ‘The only person you can change is yourself.’”
How are you able to get everyone to be so enthusiastic on your team?’ Lou Holtz replied, ‘It’s really quite simple. I eliminate the ones who aren’t.’”
Neurotics assume too much responsibility and believe everything that happens is their fault. ‘My husband is a drunk because I’m a bad wife,’ or ‘My kid smokes pot because I failed as a father,’
Character-disordered people, on the other hand, generally assume too little responsibility for their actions. They assume that everything that goes wrong is someone else’s fault. ‘My kid’s in trouble at school because of the lousy teachers,’ or ‘I can’t get ahead in my company because my boss doesn’t like me,’ or ‘The reason I’m a drunk is because my father was a drunk.’
character-neurotics—who sometimes assume too much, sometimes too lit...
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Not making a choice is itself a choice.”
“We can discipline ourselves to do what is unnatural until it becomes natural and a habit. And we all know we are creatures of habit.
Stage One: Unconscious and Unskilled
Stage Two: Conscious and Unskilled
Stage Three: Conscious and Skilled
Stage Four: Unconscious and Skilled
“The labors of leadership and love are character issues. Patience, kindness, humility, selflessness, respectfulness, forgiveness, honesty, commitment. These character building blocks, or habits, must be developed and matured if we are to become successful leaders who will stand the test of time.”
Thoughts become actions, actions become habits, habits become our character, and our character becomes our destiny.’”
“Remember the power of selective perception, John. We see and find the things we are looking for.”
When we choose to extend ourselves by serving and sacrificing for others, we will build influence. A leader who knows how to build influence is a leader whose skills will be in demand.”
The mission of building authority by serving those for whom the leader is responsible could give that leader a real vision of where he—or she—is headed. And with that vision comes purpose and meaning.”
But think how important it is to have a personal mission statement of what we are about and what we stand for. Someone once said that if we don’t stand for something, we will fall for anything.”
People who fail to grow up become more and more selfish and self-absorbed.
One of the battles of the single life, or even in growing old, is in not becoming overly self-centered. Self-centered people are the loneliest and most joyless people I know.”
if you don’t believe you are self-centered, then you are probably very self-centered.
Do we or do we not judge the quality of the picture by how we look?’”
Intentions minus actions equals squat. We’ve got to act on what we’ve learned because if nothing changes, nothing changes.”
it is of no profit to have learned well if you neglect to do well.
