Stumbling on Happiness

by Daniel Todd Gilbert

gaining control can have a positive impact on one’s health and well-being, but losing control can be worse than never having had any at all.

led some researchers to conclude that the feeling of control—whether real or illusory—is one of the wellsprings of mental health.

Impact is rewarding. Mattering makes us happy.

My friends tell me that I have a tendency to point out problems without offering solutions, but they never tell me what I should do about it.