Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters: 10 Secrets Every Father Should Know

by Meg Meeker

In order to grow stronger from her mistakes and move forward in an emotionally healthy manner, three things must take place. First, she’s got to admit the mistake. Some kids do this a lot better than others. Young kids have a hard time because much of their fantasy lives blends with reality. Be patient if your daughter has difficulty admitting mistakes, but keep at her because it’s a skill she needs to develop. Second, she must say she’s sorry—to you, to whomever she hurt, even to herself. This last gesture is extremely important for teen girls who are sensitive. One of my patients was depressed for eighteen months because she couldn’t forgive herself for a big mistake. Third, she needs to begin her life again, to move forward with a fresh start. Repeatedly I have seen girls, patients of mine, who want to say they’re sorry and move forward, but they haven’t a clue how to do this; they don’t know how to start over. This is what God can offer her: forgiveness, a way to wipe away the past and go back to the starting line. We rarely use the word mercy, but it is a beautiful word. We all know what it means. It is forgiveness and grace when we are down and out. Milton describes God’s mercy in Paradise Lost: “Through Heav’n and Earth, so shall my glorie excel, But Mercy first and last shall brightest shine.” Forgiveness, mercy, and a fresh start are things every one of us deserves. So, please, give them to your daughter. These will give her hope for her future. If you have a bett...