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by
Tony Robbins
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December 23, 2017 - January 15, 2018
Changing an organization, a company, a country—or a world—begins with the simple step of changing yourself.
You see, in life, lots of people know what to do, but few people actually do what they know. Knowing is not enough! You must take action.
“How am I going to live the next ten years of my life? How am I going to live today in order to create the tomorrow I’m committed to? What am I going to stand for from now on?
Every direction leads to an ultimate destination: our destiny.
As important as personal experience is, think how invaluable it is to have a role model as well—someone who’s navigated the rapids before you and has a good map for you to follow. You can have a role model for your finances, a model for your relationships, a model for your health, a model for your profession, or a model for any aspect of your life you’re learning to master. They can save you years of pain and keep you from going over the falls.
The truth of the matter is that there’s nothing you can’t accomplish if: 1) You clearly decide what it is that you’re absolutely committed to achieving, 2) You are willing to take massive action, 3) You
notice what’s working or not, and 4) You continue to change your approach until you achieve what you want, using whatever life gives you along the way.
For some people, winter means hibernation; for others, it means bobsledding and downhill skiing! You can always just wait out the season, but why not make it into a time to remember?
Know that it’s your decisions, and not your conditions, that determine your destiny.
For most people, the fear of loss is much greater than the desire for gain.
“The secret of success is learning how to use pain and pleasure instead of having pain and pleasure use you. If you do that, you’re in control of your life. If you don’t life controls you.”
WHAT YOU LINK PAIN TO AND WHAT YOU LINK PLEASURE TO SHAPES YOUR DESTINY
The truth is that we can learn to condition our minds, bodies, and emotions to link pain or pleasure to whatever we choose. By changing what we link pain and pleasure to, we will instantly change our behaviors.
Advertisers understand how to change what we link pain and pleasure to by changing the sensations we associate to their products. If we want to take control of our lives, we must learn to “advertise” in our own minds
Simply by linking pain to the behaviors we want to stop at such a high level of emotional intensity that we won’t even consider those behaviors any longer.
it’s not actual pain that drives us, but our fear that something will lead to pain. And it’s not actual pleasure that drives us, but our belief—our sense of certainty—that somehow taking a certain action will lead to pleasure.
“Better the devil you know than the devil you don’t know,
“A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush.
It’s not the events of our lives that shape us, but our beliefs as to what those events mean.
“We are what we think. All that we are arises With our thoughts. With our thoughts, We make our world.” —THE BUDDHA
One of the most important global beliefs that you and I can adopt is a belief that in order to succeed and be happy, we’ve got to be constantly improving the quality of our lives, constantly growing and expanding.
Changing what something means will change the decisions you make. Remember, nothing in life has any meaning except the meaning you give it.
We’ve got to remember that we get whatever we focus on in life. If we keep focusing on what we don’t want, we’ll have more of it.
I’ve found that 20 percent of any change is knowing how; but 80 percent is knowing why.
Conditioning is critical. This is how we produce consistent results. Once again, remember that any pattern of emotional behavior that is reinforced or rewarded on a consistent basis will become conditioned and automatic. Any pattern that we fail to reinforce will eventually dissipate.
Remember, whatever we focus on will determine how we feel. Maybe we shouldn’t jump to conclusions; we should choose what to focus on very carefully.
“Ask and you will receive. Seek and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you.”
is not what happens to a man; it is what a man does with what happens to him.” —ALDOUS HUXLEY
Questions determine everything you do in life, from your abilities to your relationships to your income.
Remember, it’s not only the questions you ask, but the questions you fail to ask, that shape your destiny.
“How can I turn this around?”
I knew that if I asked a better question, I’d get a better answer.
THE PROBLEM-SOLVING QUESTIONS 1. What is great about this problem? 2. What is not perfect yet? 3. What am I willing to do to make it the way I want it? 4. What am I willing to no longer do in order to make it the way I want it? 5. How can I enjoy the process while I do what is necessary to make it the way I want it?
“What’s great about this?” and “How can I use this?
“What is my life really about?,” “What am I really committed to?,” “Why am I here?,” and “Who am I?
“Kill the monster while it’s little.”
Cultivate curiosity, and life becomes an unending study of joy.
“The secret to living is giving.”
It’s not just getting a goal that matters, but the quality of life you experience along the way.
“mouse” had “become a lion.” How’s that for a metaphor?
Sometimes we need to trust that our disappointments may truly be opportunities in disguise.
top four one-year goals.
value of spending seven days without ever holding a negative thought.
“We first make our habits, and then our habits make us.”
you can’t judge a person’s character by one isolated incident. People are not their behaviors.
“What are the values that are controlling me?
“Be more concerned with your character than your reputation, because your character is what you really are, while your reputation is merely what others think you are.” —JOHN WOODEN
references provide us with the foundational ingredients of our beliefs, we
it’s true that no matter how bad things are for you, someone else is going through something worse, it’s also true that no matter how well things are going for you, someone else is doing even better.
leaders are readers.
