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Tony Robbins
THE ECOLOGY CHECK 1. Make certain pain is fully associated with the old pattern. When you think of your old behavior or feelings, do you picture and feel things that are painful now instead of pleasurable? 2. Make certain pleasure is fully associated with the new pattern. When you think of your new behavior or feelings, do you picture and feel things that are pleasurable now instead of painful? 3. Align with your values, beliefs, and rules. Is the new behavior or feeling consistent with the values, beliefs, and rules in your life? (We will discuss these in later chapters.) 4. Make sure the
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isn’t it true that what you really want is simply to change the way you feel?
What it all comes down to is the fact that you want these things or results because you see them as a means to achieving certain feelings, emotions, or states that you desire.
your behavior is not the result of your ability, but of the state that you’re in at this moment.
how can we change our own emotional states?
unlimited ways of looking at virtually anything in life.
There are two primary ways, then, to change your emotional state: by changing the way you use your physical body, or by changing your focus.
Emotion is created by motion.
bodies. Even the most minute changes in our facial expressions or our gestures will shift the way that we’re feeling in any moment, and therefore the way we evaluate our lives—the way we think and the way we act.
Every emotion you ever feel has specific physiology linked to it: posture, breathing, patterns of movement, facial expressions.
Once you learn how you use your body when in certain emotional states, you can return to those states, or avoid them, simply by changing your physiology.
to moment. We each have over eighty different muscles in our faces, and if these muscles get accustomed to expressing depression, boredom, or frustration, then this habitual muscular pattern literally begins to dictate our states, not to mention our physical character.
TYPES OF EMOTIONS AN INDIVIDUAL MIGHT FEEL IN A WEEK Stressed out Frustrated Angry Insecure Lonely Bored Miserable Happy Relieved Loved Excited Joyous This is such a short menu of emotional choices when you consider the thousands of enticing states available.
You can experience any of these just by changing the way you use your body!
Wake your body up; learn to put it in pleasurable states
If you repeatedly use your body in weak ways, if you drop your shoulders on a regular basis,
Your body leads your emotions.
If you really want to change your life, commit for the next seven days to spending one minute five times a day, grinning from ear to ear in the mirror.
make yourself laugh for no reason at all, three times each day for seven days.
the real key in life is to be able to make yourself feel good when you don’t feel good,
Once you identify the physiology attached to a state, you can use it to create the states you desire at will.
The key to success, then, is to create patterns of movement that create confidence, a sense of strength, flexibility, a sense of personal power, and fun.
If you wanted to, couldn’t you get depressed at a moment’s notice? You bet you could, just by focusing on something in your past that was horrible.
Then why would you go back to the awful movies in your head on a regular basis?
WHATEVER WE FOCUS ON BECOMES OUR IDEA OF REALITY
consciously changing her physiology and her focus that she was able to take control of her life.
Ralph Waldo Emerson, each of us sees in others what we carry in our own hearts.
whatever we focus on will determine how we feel.
you travel in the direction of your focus.
condition your focus to be positive.
you’ve got to discipline your mind.
The most powerful way to control focus is through the use of questions. For whatever you ask, your brain provides an answer; whatever you look for, you’ll find. If you ask, “Why is this person taking advantage of me?” you’re going to focus on how you’re being taken advantage of, whether it’s true or not. If you ask, “How can I turn this around?” you’ll get a more empowering answer.
“You’re blowing things out of proportion.” If you’re really upset, they may be right. You may be taking images in your mind and making them much bigger, which tends to intensify the experience.
The key in life is to have so many ways to direct your life that it becomes an art. The challenge for most people is that they have only a few ways to change their state: they overeat, overdrink, oversleep, over-shop,
If you want to go on a diet, it’s not going to work if you’re in a fearful state, or a worried state, or a frustrated state.
You’ve got to be in a determined state in order to succeed.
you must take conscious control of running your own mind.
establish a set of habitual patterns of using your physiology and focus so that you consistently feel good without any conscious effort whatsoever.
My definition of success is to live your life in a way that causes you to feel tons of pleasure and very little pain—and
Someone who’s achieved a lot but is living in emotional pain all the time, or is surrounded by people in pain all the time, isn’t truly successful.
All that you really want in life is to change how you feel.
do you know how to make yourself feel good?
do you have a set of specific and empowering ways to make yourself feel good at a moment’s notice? Can you accomplish this without the use of food,
Sit down right now and write down a list of things that you currently do to change how you feel. As long as you’re making a list, why not add some new things you may not have tried before that could positively
Don’t stop until you have a minimum of fifteen ways to instantly feel good, and the ideal would be at least twenty-five.
Changing my body movements is something I can do instantly to break out of a limiting state and into a resourceful one: exercising on my StairMaster™ with the music cranking full tilt, jumping up and down on my rebounder unit, running five miles uphill, swimming laps.
LIST OF WAYS TO CHANGE HOW I FEEL, TO GO FROM PAIN TO PLEASURE, AND TO FEEL GOOD IMMEDIATELY
IF YOU DON’T HAVE A PLAN FOR PLEASURE, YOU WILL HAVE PAIN
The whole key here is to create a huge list of ways to make yourself feel good so you don’t need to turn to those other ways that are destructive.
Make this list a reality; develop a plan for pleasure for each and every day
