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Tony Robbins
if you’re overeating on a regular basis, the real cause is usually a values problem o...
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you can reinvent yourself by systematically organizing your beliefs and values in a way that pulls you in the direction of your life’s design.
Without a doubt, you will make wrong decisions in your life. You’re going to screw up!
Success truly is the result of good judgment. Good judgment is the result of experience, and experience is often the result of bad judgment!
We must commit to learning from our mistakes, rather than beating ourselves up, or we’re destined to make the same mistakes again in the future.
I became an excellent public speaker because, rather than once a week, I booked myself to speak three times a day to anyone who would listen.
there are no failures in life. There are only results.
there’s nothing you can’t accomplish if: 1) You clearly decide what it is that you’re absolutely committed to achieving, 2) You are willing to take massive action, 3) You notice what’s working or not, and 4) You continue to change your approach until you achieve what you want, using whatever life gives you along the way.
His passion and belief paid off because he had known what he wanted, taken action, noticed what was working, and kept changing his approach until he got what he wanted.
Deciding to commit yourself to long-term results, rather than short-term fixes, is as important as any decision you’ll make in your lifetime.
three decisions that we all control each moment of our lives: what to focus on, what things mean, and what to do in spite of the challenges that may appear to limit us.
No season lasts forever because all of life is a cycle of planting, reaping, resting, and renewal.
a real decision is measured by the fact that you’ve taken new action. If there’s no action, you haven’t truly decided.
2. Realize that the hardest step in achieving anything is making a true commitment—a true decision.
Studies have shown that the most successful people make decisions rapidly because they are clear on their values and what they really want for their lives. The same studies show that they are slow to change their decisions, if at all. On the other hand, people who fail usually make decisions slowly and change their minds quickly, always bouncing back and forth. Just decide!
A critical rule I’ve made for myself is never to leave the scene of a decision without first taking a specific action toward its realization.
3. Make decisions often. The more decisions you make, the better you’re going to become at making them. Muscles get stronger with use, and so it is with your decision-making muscles. Unleash your power right now by making some decisions you’ve been putting off. You won’t believe the energy and excitement it will create in your life! 4. Learn from your decisions.
“Life is either a daring adventure or nothing.” —HELEN KELLER
it’s your decisions, and not your conditions, that determine your destiny.
a truly committed decision is the force that changes your life.
Everything you and I do, we do either out of our need to avoid pain or our desire to gain pleasure.
They feel frustrated, overwhelmed, even angry with themselves because they know they need to take action, but they can’t get themselves to do it.
The answer is simple: at some level you believe that taking action in this moment would be more painful than just putting it off.
you fail to act simply because in that moment you associate more pain to doing what’s necessary than missing the opportunity.
What if you started a diet and went through the pain of starving yourself, only to gain the weight back eventually anyway?
What if you made an investment and lost your money? So why even try?
For most people, the fear of loss is much greater than the desire for gain. Which wou...
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“The secret of success is learning how to use pain and pleasure instead of having pain and pleasure use you. If you do that, you’re in control of your life. If you don’t life controls you.” —ANTHONY ROBBINS
pain becomes our friend.
What motivated that decision? It was the desire to remove pain from your life and establish pleasure once again: the pleasure of pride, the pleasure of comfort, the pleasure of self-esteem, the pleasure of living life the way you’ve designed it.
The most important lesson we learn in life is what creates pain for us and what creates pleasure. This lesson is different for each of us and, therefore, so are our behaviors.
WHAT YOU LINK PAIN TO AND WHAT YOU LINK PLEASURE TO SHAPES YOUR DESTINY
One decision that has made a tremendous difference in the quality of my life is that at an early age I began to link incredible pleasure to learning.
Learning provided me with something to give, the opportunity to truly contribute something of value to all those around me. It offered me a sense of joy and fulfillment.
What are some of the experiences of pain and pleasure that have shaped your life?
if we link massive pain to any behavior or emotional pattern, we will avoid indulging in it at all costs. We can use this understanding to harness the force of pain and pleasure to change virtually anything in our lives,
individuals who follow intense physical regimens in order to sculpt their bodies have learned to link tremendous feelings of pleasure to the “pain” of physical exertion. They have converted the discomfort of discipline into the satisfaction of personal growth. This is why their behavior is consistent, as are their results!
what you link pain and pleasure to will shape your destiny.
As you sit down to dinner tonight, do you consume food matter-of-factly as an opportunity to refuel your body, or do you devour it as your sole source of pleasure?
Though we’d like to deny it, the fact remains that what drives our behavior is instinctive reaction to pain and pleasure, not intellectual calculation.
we will all do more to avoid pain than we will to gain pleasure. Going on a diet and overriding our pain in the short term by pure willpower never lasts simply because we still link pain to giving up fattening foods. For this change to be long-term, we’ve got to link pain to eating those foods so that we no longer even desire them, and pleasure to eat more of the foods that nourish us. People who are fit and healthy believe that nothing tastes as good as thin feels! And they love foods that nourish them. In fact, they often link pleasure to pushing the plate away with food still on it.
The truth is that we can learn to condition our minds, bodies, and emotions to link pain or pleasure to whatever we choose. By changing what we link pain and pleasure to, we will instantly change our behaviors.
IF YOU DON’T HAVE A PLAN FOR YOUR LIFE, SOMEONE ELSE DOES
His ability to change people’s emotional states makes him invaluable.
linking pleasurable sensations to specific behaviors.
if we don’t direct our own thoughts, we’ll fall under the influence of those who would condition us to behave in the way they desire.
linking pain to the behaviors we want to stop at such a high level of emotional intensity that we won’t even consider those behaviors any longer.
link pleasure to the new behavior you desire for yourself. Through repetition and emotional intensity, you can condition these behaviors within yourself until they are automatic.
linkages—between ideas, words, images, sounds, and sensations of pain and pleasure—are happening constantly.
in order to succeed, most of the things that we value require us to be able to break through the wall of short-term pain in order to have long-term pleasure.
