For the rules that govern your moving-toward values, use the phrase “Anytime I…” In other words, create a menu of possibilities of ways to feel good. For example, “I feel love anytime I give love, or anytime I spend time with people I love, or anytime I smile at someone new, or anytime I talk with an old friend, or anytime I notice someone doing something nice for me, or anytime I appreciate those who already love me.” Do you notice what you’ve done? You’ve made the game winnable by stacking the deck outrageously in your favor!
