if you ask yourself a question like “Why do I always sabotage myself?” after something ends disappointingly, you set yourself up for more of the same and set in motion a self-fulfilling prophecy. Why? Because, as we’ve already said, your brain will obediently come up with an answer for anything you ask of it. You’ll take for granted that you’ve sabotaged things because you’re focusing on why you do it, not on whether you do it.
