It is not psychologically possible for us really to know God’s pity for us and at the same time be hardhearted toward others. So we are “forgiving of others in the same manner as God forgives us.” That is a part of our prayer. We are not just promising or resolving to forgive, however. We are praying for help to forgive others, for, though it is up to us to forgive—we do it—we know we cannot do it without help.
