All of this will require careful advice and much prayer and perhaps intense personal presence by the teacher on occasion. The assistance of specially trained counselors may be required. It will take a lengthy period of time in some cases, and the child must take care not to get caught in old damaging patterns of interaction with the parent: for example, trying to make the parent understand, or trying to have the “last word,” or proving he or she was right. Such matters must be simply surrendered to God for him to work out as he will.
