But for a person who’s stuck in the wrong life, setting out on a North Star quest has all the combined attractions of suicide and childbirth. To complete it, you’ll have to kill off the old You and give birth to a different You, someone nobody has ever seen before. Neither side of this process is painless, and they’re both scary as hell.
However, this might not work as well as you think when people who have known you as your old self will doubt or ignore that you have killed the old you and gave birth to a new you. Usually, when I move to a new place it’s a good opportunity to connect with people (who don’t know you yet) with your new self. Or, if you haven’t seen a person who knew your old self in a long time, this will work as well since you can explain better that you’ve changed.
