Like attractions to people, Urge to Merge reactions to activities come and go on their own mysterious timetable. You’re more likely to experience these sensations when you’re at a change point. Crisis, loss, transformation, and growth all tend to weaken the grip of the social self, and demand some quick decision making on the part of the essential self. Since it can’t explain itself logically, the essential self may just throw out a grappling hook and latch on to something or someone that might pull you toward your true path. When have you “gone crazy” over a person or activity?
