EXERCISE At the top of a piece of notebook paper, write the words “This Is What Happened.” Then put down a description of something that hurt you emotionally. Next, write “This Is How I Feel About It,” and describe your emotional response to the event. Very nice; that’s out of the way. Now turn to a fresh page and write “This Is What REALLY Happened.” Recount the same event, only tell all the shocking, rude, blunt, unkind details you left out the first time. When that’s done, write, “This Is How I REALLY Feel About It.” Dig deeper into your gut reactions, taking especial care to describe any
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