Another reason you may find yourself reluctant to back away from interacting with your Everybody representatives is that you urgently believe that these people must be persuaded to see things your way, condone your true path, and grant you their heartfelt blessing. While their hard-heartedness is their problem, your inability to detach is yours. It’s based on a childlike desperation to control the uncontrollable. Learn to recognize this pattern when it emerges. Then gently remind your social self, over and over, that there is no way you can coerce anyone to change his or her opinions and
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