Mr. Right in some respects is a less violent and frightening version of the Drill Sergeant (see p. 86), but Mr. Right’s control tends to be especially focused on telling his partner how to think.
Uhhhh this is how I feel all the time… like his voice is in my head telling me how to do things better, or generally judging every action I take.
I feel I’m under scrutiny, or about to be, while I’m home with him, or when either of us returns home. He would say he doesn’t do this- but, while he’s in meetings, I worry about what I SHOULD be doing (according to him). I tend to become paralyzed, not make any decisions, overanalyze everything, and end up so stressed I feel confused and stuck.
I think about his “shoulds” because of how he reacts when he comes out of meetings and doesn’t approve of what I’m currently doing. It might be subtle- “have you gotten to X? That’s more important than Y” (X = his opinion, Y = mine).
