Establishing consequences for him for continued abusiveness. You may be able to use the legal system to impose sanctions if your partner’s style of abuse is physically violent or threatening, or involves sexual assaults. Leaving him is another good consequence for him, perhaps even better than legal intervention, depending on who he is and how well the police and courts work where you live. To get an abuser to change, you have to either prepare to leave him—if you can do so safely—or use the police and courts, or both.
