Omg, this is what happens!!!
He constantly complains about something (ex- the kitchen isn’t clean so he can’t focus for work). I say I can’t get to it right now. He says that his complaints aren’t directed at ME, they’re just statements, he says he can also do some cleaning sometime.
However- he continues to complain about it on a low level, sometimes for a few days. I guess I tend to get so worn down from this, and I start to feel guilty because he’s making the money, so it’s always felt like he’s the only one that can make decisions?
I’ll have to watch out for this- expect it, and don’t acknowledge it other than a head nod. Don’t get defensive- he can easily slip back into saying he wasn’t saying it to me!
I can just say, yep, it’s dirty, and let go of that anxiety that tells me I need to fix it so he can focus better on work, work makes the money, I don’t make money.
