For those abusers who are not chronically unfaithful to their partners, this competition with men may still exist, perhaps taking the form of desiring to have the most beautiful or sexy partner and wanting other men to see how he owns and controls her. His partner may be flattered by his pride in her at first, but gradually she comes to feel that she is being used as a showpiece, with her humanity ignored.
I definitely have felt like my humanity has been ignored for the sake of his desires. I’ve definitely been turned into some kind of sex doll in his eyes. It’s almost creepy. This one time I told him I didn’t like deep throating because I had a sore throat for 2 DAYS! 2 DAYS straight! You know what he did? As usual when things don’t go his way? He dismissed my feelings!
He said “So what! We both go through lengths to please each other! I have a sore dick!” First off all I’m not shoving your dick in my vagina! Even if I did that’s no where near as comparable considering the fact that something like that would feel good to a man. However having your throat shoved down someone’s dick doesn’t. I’m NOT surprised when his ex finally declined him a blowjob! The fact that he was surprised and shocked aswell! Like DUH
Also, I have definitely felt like he’s wanted to show me off to other men! He’s asked me to dress sexier/ more revealing to brag on other men and make other men jealous 🤢🤮
