If you are involved with a sexually exploitative partner, you may find that sex is sometimes, or perhaps always, a nightmare. Exploitative, rough, coercive, uncaring sex is similar to physical violence in its effects, and can be worse in many ways. And part of why it feels so degrading is that a woman can sense the fact that in her partner’s mind she has ceased to exist as a human being.
I’ve definitely felt like when he’s face fucked me. Like I’ve just been completely dehumanised. I’ve felt just lifeless in that moment. All I do is disconnect and dissociate from my body.
Because of the patriarchy and porn women feel like they need to partake in this stuff that hurts us for the sake of pleasing men. There’s pressure in society for a woman to sexually please and satisfy her man to the best of her ability otherwise if he cheats the blame is put on her.
