It fails, however, to get across with sufficient clarity the final rule of fatherhood: If you’re not bothered by it, or disturbed by it, or messed up from it, you’re probably doing something wrong that will mess up your kids. You’re probably doing something wrong anyway, but that’s okay: You can only do so much to mess up your kids. They can always get back at you, in therapy or their memoirs. But if you don’t monitor these small creatures closely, they have the power to screw you up forever. So watch out for yourself—but don’t let anyone know that’s what you’re doing.
