The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level

by Gay Hendricks

I expand in abundance, success, and love every day, as I inspire those around me to do the same.

Here’s what the Ultimate Success Mantra does for you on a moment-by-moment basis. It beams a key instruction to your conscious and unconscious mind. It tells you to expand, rather than contract or remain as is, in three key areas of your development: abundance, love, and success.

Commitment gets you started and propels you through the early stages of any game, but it’s recommitment that ignites your reserves when you feel like you’re going to give up. Those moments of low energy are inevitable (in my experience, at least) when you’re on a quest for any worthy goal. The saving move in that moment is to renew your commitment.

In the Zone of Genius, you don’t care about getting approval, getting control, getting even, or any of the other get-oriented goals of the ego.

But when the war erupts between your conviction that love lies outside yourself and the deep knowledge that it’s a matter of your own creation, you can feel a kind of cellular exhaustion that seems part of the very cosmos itself. That’s when recommitment comes in handy. It’s time then to take a deep breath and renew your commitment to living full-time in your Zone of Genius.

One of the most delicious feelings in the world comes from seeing people actually becoming inspired by your commitment to living in your Zone of Genius.

If you get a handle on how time actually operates, your work flows gracefully and at high performance. If you don’t, it doesn’t. Before I figured out how time actually works, I put in twice as many hours and got half as much done. Everything changed when I figured out the secret of Einstein Time. Now I work half as much and get at least twice as much done.

One immediate payoff of getting the correct understanding of time is that you feel less stressed as you go through your day. That’s good, but there’s an even bigger reward: you free up time for creative thinking.

When you make the shift to Einstein Time, you experience a major surge in your productivity, creativity, and enjoyment. The shift takes place the moment you embrace one profoundly simple truth: You’re where time comes from.

It works so well it may seem like magic, but it’s based on solid science inspired by Einstein’s physics.

Once you understand that you’re where time comes from, you have the power to make as much of it as you want.

This new way of being with time delivers four main benefits: You get more done in less time. You enjoy plenty of time and abundant energy for your most important creative activities. You discover your unique abilities and how to express them. You feel good inside.

To generate an abundance of time, ask yourself, Where in my life am I not taking full ownership? Another way to ask it is: What am I trying to disown? Or:

What aspect of my life do I need to take full ownership of?

Here’s the principle behind the question: stress and conflict are caused by resisting acceptance and ownership. If there is any part of ourselves or our lives that we’re not fully willing to accept, we will experience stress and friction in that area.

The stress will disappear the moment we accept that part and claim ownership of it.

HOW TO BEGIN

Begin with time itself. Do whatever it takes to get yourself in harmony with the reality that you’re the source of time. Once you’re convinced, start acting as if it’s true. A simple way to begin is to put yourself on a radical diet: complete abstinence from complaining about time. This courageous move will take you out of the victim position in regard to time. When you stop complaining about time, you cease perpetuating the destructive myth that time is the persecutor and you are its victim. I found this surprisingly hard when I first started the diet. Until I went on the diet, I hadn’t realized how many of my conversations contained complaints about time. Notice the conversations around you this week. See how many times you hear things like: “I wish I had time to stop and chat, but I’m in a hurry.” “Where did the time go?”

“There simply aren’t enough hours in the day.” “If only I’d gotten another hour of sleep.” “Love to talk but I’ve gotta run…” “I have to get to the bank…”...

The moment you stop complaining about time, you free up the necessary energy to mount a similar campaign on the inner plane.

One particular phrase I’d like you to eliminate is this common one: I don’t have time to do that right now.

Based on what you’ve learned in this chapter, you can probably now see that it’s a lie. It’s a lie for two reasons: First, time is not something you have or don’t have. You’re the source of it, and you make as much of it as you want. Second, when you say, “I don’t have time to do that right now,” you’re telling a polite lie to avoid saying, “I don’t want to do that right now.” By placing the blame on time, you avoid confronting the blunt truth of the matter.

By using time as the culprit, you place yourself in the victim position once again.

As you know by now, the essential move we all need to master is learning to handle more positive energy, success, and love.

the greater success you achieve, the bumpier your relationships tend to be.

There are two main reasons that successful people have dismal relationships: (1) simply because they’re successful; and (2) because they don’t know how the Upper Limit Problem works.

Particularly, I had seen the power of projection, a subject that in my opinion should be in the curriculum of all elementary schools everywhere.

A vast amount of energy can be liberated in relationships by dropping the habit of projection.

most of us have little experience observing healthy relationships; and because having healthy relationships is a new task in evolution.

There are several ways we limit positive energy in relationships. One is by starting arguments, out of fear of intimacy, at times when we could be exchanging intimacy. Another is by withholding significant communications. We get scared of being close, for example, and instead of telling the microscopic truth about it (“My belly felt tight and my skin contracted when I heard you say…”), we withdraw and swallow the communication. Another way we limit positive energy is by needing to control or dominate the other person (or needing to be controlled or dominated). If we always have to be right, for example, there is no room in the relationship to be happy.

If you’re a successful person in a close relationship, you will likely find the following suggestions helpful. Make sure you take plenty of time for yourself, in a space apart from your partner. It could even be in the next room, so long as the intention is to nurture the independent part of you. Human beings have twin drives of equal power: the urge to merge and the urge to be an autonomous person. For a relationship to thrive, both drives need to be celebrated. A close relationship stirs up powerful transformative energies, and you need lots of rest time to integrate the rapid-fire stimulation that a relationship provides. If you can learn to take time off from the relationship consciously, you won’t need to do it unconsciously by starting arguments and engaging in other intimacy-destroying moves. Go on solo walks, take in a movie by yourself, spend an afternoon doing whatever the spirit moves you to do. These periods of battery-charging alone time give you the ability to master longer and longer periods of closeness when you’re in union with your beloved. Put a priority on speaking the microscopic truth, especially about what is going on in your emotions. Get skilled at simple microscopic truths such as “I’m sad,” “I’m scared,” and “I feel angry.” Communicating about feelings, dreams, desires, and other inner experiences creates deep intimacy in relationships. None of us gets any training in how to communicate about these simple things, and our lack of training is...