Suppose a wife wonders how she could ever possibly respect her husband—because, as it turns out, he is a bozo. However, if a husband said he cannot love his wife until she makes herself more lovely, we would know that the problem lies entirely with him—husbands should love their wives unconditionally. However, this also goes the other way: wives should not sit in judgment on their husbands and wait until he passes a test before she shows respect. She is required by God to respect him now
