It’s a risk to live life by your values because your decisions might put you at odds with those closest to you, or you might find yourself “falling behind” in culturally held metrics like money, status, or prestige (or, conversely, self-sacrifice and devotion to caretaking). The thing is, not only will culture (the expectations put on us from the outside) and your nature (your innate wants, needs, desires, preferences) sometimes clash, but perhaps even more important to understand is that the culture often gives women contradictory goals that are impossible to meet simultaneously.
