rid of” guilt or avoid feeling guilty—they see the guilt as a giant red flag that they need to drop everything and attend to so it will go away. But this doesn’t work. In trying to avoid guilt or fighting with your mind to stop feeling that way, you are still engaging with guilt and letting it (or the avoidance of it) control you. The goal is not to stop feeling guilty, but instead, to turn down the volume and not let guilt control your decisions. It means seeing the guilt not as a giant red flag but as a faulty “check engine” light—something that’s always there but operates primarily in the
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