This distinction between burnout and betrayal is critical: while burnout places the blame (and thus the responsibility) on the individual and tells women they aren’t resilient enough, betrayal points directly to the broken structures around them. “This whole pandemic is teaching us all how to roll with the punches,” someone wrote to me on social media, “because they are forceful and frequent, and if you don’t roll with them, you get steamrolled.” When you live inside social structures that make your life harder and force you to make morally impossible decisions, it’s not for lack of trying
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