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You have the power to create what you need.
The whole day is up to me!”
Find the Gift in Everything
if you are still hurting from your divorce, begin to focus on the good things you had during the marriage and the good things that have come about as a result of the divorce, such as new friends, new ways of dealing with money, freedom, less dependency.
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Recognize the gift in any negative experience and acknowledge it.
What’s wrong with looking at the sunshine instead of seeing gloom and doom?
Seneca, the Roman philosopher and statesman, wrote a very long time ago, “We suffer more often in imagination than in reality.”
one can create good from anything.
When problem solving, stimulating discussion, or reading is a part of your daily life, your mind stays sharp.
Affirmations. What is an affirmation? An affirmation is self-talk in its highest form.
An affirmation is a positive statement that something is already happening.
I am breaking through old patterns and moving forward with my life. I relax, knowing I can handle it all.
I spread warmth and love everywhere I go.
am finding the gift in all experiences.
three affirmation audios: Inner Talk for a Confident Day, Inner Talk for Peace of Mind, and Inner Talk for a Love That Works (available via SusanJeffers.com).
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It helps you to lighten up about everything!
Yes, there is pain in our own lives.
real positive thinking allows the tears to flow . . . always knowing we will get to the other side of the pain and live a beautiful and productive life.
Do you feel good being around them, or do you feel “infected” by their negativity?
It is amazingly empowering to have the support of a strong, motivated, and inspirational group of people.
Positiveness is contagious as well, and spending time with a positive person makes you feel as though you can sprout wings and fly.
what do I do with the old friends I have outgrown?”
You have to go out and create the kind of support system you want.
It was painful in the beginning—they had been together 12 years—but
she began to experience the joy of discovering her own capabilities.
self-defense is Aikido in Everyday Life by Terry Dobson and Victor Miller. Their premise is that “the best victory is the one in which everyone wins.”
The less you need someone’s approval, the more you are able to love them.
For some reason we feel we should be perfect, and forget that we learn through our mistakes.
You’re not a failure if you don’t make it; you’re a success because you try.
Give yourself time to really think about what you want out of life.
If you lose a lover, no problem—you find another one. If you choose to divorce, no problem—you learn to handle living on your own.
The Laughing Buddha is so happy because he knows that everything is all right.
remember a time in my life when I was frightened of just about everything—fearful that I would fail in all my attempts to fulfill my dreams. So I just stayed home, a victim of all my insecurities.
It was actually an airline commercial that used the slogan “Get into this world.”
The Feel the Fear Guide to Lasting Love,
One of the most valuable lessons in learning to diminish fear is embodied in the phrase SAY YES TO YOUR UNIVERSE.
“It’s simple. Whatever happens to you in life, just nod your head, up and down, instead of shaking it, side to side. Just say yes instead of no.”
Saying yes allows us to be the creators of our lives, rather than victims of circumstance.
He would be a model, saying, “If I could do it, so can you.”
say yes to the pain, understanding that it is a part of life.
life hands you a lot of goodbyes—but that’s just the way life is.
We all know people who are out of touch with their pain—who have refused to let themselves feel their emotions.
Viktor Frankl’s book Man’s Search for Meaning.
even in the most difficult circumstances—to add a deeper meaning to his life.
saying yes means positive action; saying no means giving up.
Saying yes means getting up and acting on your belief that you can create meaning and purpose in whatever life hands you.
“Go with the flow.” This means consciously accepting what is happening in your life.
Choosing Love and Trust
They couldn’t believe how difficult it had been to acknowledge the contribution of a partner.
Genuine giving is not only altruistic; it also makes us feel better.
