If victims of abuse refuse to meet, an unrepentant pastor will likely portray the victims as unforgiving and unwilling to reconcile. He will take the moral high ground, making himself out to be the peacemaker and the victims as the ones holding a grudge. This is why it is imperative that churches not even ask the victims to meet with the abuser until the guidelines are met. That way, the church is preventing the meeting from taking place, not the victims.
