What most of my clients find is that even when their partner is perfectly loving, it triggers parts of them that don’t trust they are lovable, that the love will last, or that someone who loves them deserves their love. Because of our burdens and our reasons for choosing a partner, we will be triggered in important ways by that person. The question is whether we will use the relationship to illuminate dark dungeons we need to clear out or avoid looking in those dungeons by focusing instead on the partner.
