From those kinds of experiences, many of us learned to disdain, stifle, and try to eliminate not only our neediness and vulnerability but also our liveliness. We locked away our vitality, passion, sensuality, and courage because those qualities threatened someone we depended on. I have worked with many clients who were told by their family that they were “too much” and who had playfulness and daring shamed out of them. There are three primary reasons you wound up exiling your most precious aspects.
