you will be moved to find the right words. Actually, the words matter much less than your energy. Your Self will find a way to convey how sorry you are that your partner is suffering. What your partner wants is the same thing that exiles in general want. It involves three steps—for you to: 1. compassionately witness what happened from their perspective and appreciate how much they were hurt; 2. sincerely express your empathy for that pain and regret for your role in creating it (no matter how inadvertent); and 3. describe the steps you will take to prevent it from happening again.
