Try not to overreact internally; remind your parts that you’re still there with them and that there’s pain behind her rage. Either remain the “I” in the storm, or when you can’t and your own protectors hijack as well, separate from them enough to know it’s a parts attack and not your true feelings. Later, do a U-turn—get curious about what was happening inside you during the episode, go inside to find out, and invite your partner to do the same. Once you each discover the parts involved, disclose that information—especially the exiles that were driving the protectiveness—to the other as part
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