You Are the One You've Been Waiting For: Applying Internal Family Systems to Intimate Relationships

by Richard C. Schwartz

(1) the Four Horsemen when you are in conflict, (2) ignoring or rejecting each other’s bids for connection in your daily interactions, (3) rejecting attempts to repair the relationship, (4) chronically describing your relationship negatively, and (5) highlighting the hurtful, stupid things your partner has done in the past.