the co-creation events of our lives do not play out in an external, homogenous time. They are the stuff of time itself. Grasping this fully can be like the moment when you actually have a conversation you’ve rehearsed in your head. Your rehearsal can never be complete because your imagination was missing not only the person you’re talking with, but yourself in each moment—the person changing and responding as the conversation proceeds. When you remember this, the future can cease to look like an abstract horizon toward which your abstract ego plods in its lonely container of a body. Instead,
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