Recovery from Narcissistic Abuse, Gaslighting, Codependency and Complex PTSD (4 Books in 1): Workbook and Guide to Overcome Trauma, Toxic Relationships, ... and Recover from Unhealthy Relationships)

by Linda Hill

is if you do not feel safe enough to express yourself fully and freely. No, that does not mean using unfiltered words or statements. What that means is being able to clearly and concisely: disagree with your partner, stand up to your partner, correct your partner, or state your needs/longings/dreams/problems/questions, to your partner (Ni, 2013). A healthy partner—even if they are a bad communicator or lack/are bad at boundaries—will listen to you if you say that you feel scared to express certain things in the relationship. That discussion could even act as a wake-up call for you both to actively fight previous traumas or bad habits. But a gaslighter, as we now know, will use that discussion to turn all of the problems back onto you and deny their part in it. A